16 Dec Am I Allowed To Feel Relief? Yes!

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Defining Relief   Relief is the feeling that comes when something burdensome is removed or reduced.  Relief is the feeling of calmness following a release from anxiety or distress.   Relief Is A Normal Grief Response   Relief is a normal reaction to the circumstances surrounding the death of your loved one—and any other type […]

05 Dec Dealing With Grief: 5 Ways To Prevent A Holiday From Being Ruined

Yes! We Drive Each Other Nuts! Grieving family members, including children, tend to drive each other nuts because we each grieve differently and on our own personal healing time table.  Normal grief pain produces normal grief responses—and the grief responses that you experience may or may not be the same as other family members. Normal […]

05 Dec Don’t Boss Me Around!

25 Nov Emotional Crash After Thanksgiving Day

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Experiencing An Emotional Crash After Thanksgiving Day? It’s the day after Thanksgiving.  Are you experiencing an emotional crash?  Just asking.  Why?  Because, not every one does, but many of us do.  You need to know that this too is normal for grieving and healing.  For instance, did you wake up feeling emotionally and physically exhausted […]

22 Nov Anniversary Of The Death: Emotional Kicker

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Anniversary Of The Death: Emotional Kicker This day was never a part of your life until the death of your loved one.  Now that it is, you may be wondering, Now What?  For starters, it’s helpful to understand what’s normal for the anniversary of the death.  Why?  So that you can navigate your healing journey […]

23 Jan Now What? Death Day! Also Known As The Anniversary Of The Death

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  Now What?  Death Day! Also Known As The Anniversary Of The Death…  I referred to this day as “Death Day” the first few years after my husband Donald died.  Every year I take inventory—and every year I can’t believe that another year has gone by—and every year the days leading up to this day […]

17 Oct Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police

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  Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police.  What a welcome change!  Instead of the normal cold and rainy and sometimes snowy Michigan weather that we tend to experience on Thanksgiving Day—the weather on this particular Thanksgiving Day (1998) was sunny and warm and beautiful.  I know that I am not the only holiday host, […]

19 Nov Grieving Forward Holiday Plan

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  1.  You don’t need to accept every invitation. 2.  It’s okay not to decorate as much or not to decorate at all.  Unless you have children who expect and need things not to change much. 3.  You don’t have to do everything the same.  This is difficult to do when everything has changed. 4. […]

07 Dec Christmas/Holiday Time & Grief Bursts

What is a grief burst?  A grief burst is when intense, painful, grief emotions unexpectedly (and that seemingly come out of nowhere)  surge though the mind and body and emotionally, and sometimes physically, derail you for a brief period of time.  Typically producing unstoppable tears—but not always.   And possibly triggering a burst of grief related […]