05 Dec Dealing With Grief: 5 Ways To Prevent A Holiday From Being Ruined

Yes! We Drive Each Other Nuts! Grieving family members, including children, tend to drive each other nuts because we each grieve differently and on our own personal healing time table.  Normal grief pain produces normal grief responses—and the grief responses that you experience may or may not be the same as other family members. Normal […]

05 Dec Don’t Boss Me Around!

25 Nov Emotional Crash After Thanksgiving Day

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Experiencing An Emotional Crash After Thanksgiving Day? It’s the day after Thanksgiving.  Are you experiencing an emotional crash?  Just asking.  Why?  Because, not every one does, but many of us do.  You need to know that this too is normal for grieving and healing.  For instance, did you wake up feeling emotionally and physically exhausted […]

12 Jul Writing For Healing? Does It Work?

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  Writing For Healing… Does It Work?  After the death of my first husband Donald I tried writing about my experience, including what I was feeling, because I was told it would be helpful and make me feel better.  However, I didn’t get that result.  It made me feel worse. Because of my experience I […]

02 Feb Will A New Relationship Make The Pain Of Grief Go Away?

23 Jan Now What? Death Day! Also Known As The Anniversary Of The Death

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  Now What?  Death Day! Also Known As The Anniversary Of The Death…  I referred to this day as “Death Day” the first few years after my husband Donald died.  Every year I take inventory—and every year I can’t believe that another year has gone by—and every year the days leading up to this day […]

16 Jan Feeling More Relief Than Grief?

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  Feeling more relief than grief?  Feeling more relief than grief is something that typically doesn’t get talked about much.  However, we need to talk about this because this too is normal for grieving and healing for some people.  Typically, this type of response occurs, with some level of emotional intensity, after witnessing your loved […]

17 Oct Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police

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  Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police.  What a welcome change!  Instead of the normal cold and rainy and sometimes snowy Michigan weather that we tend to experience on Thanksgiving Day—the weather on this particular Thanksgiving Day (1998) was sunny and warm and beautiful.  I know that I am not the only holiday host, […]

27 Sep Why Does Grief Feel So Much Like Fear?

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Why Does Grief Feel So Much Like Fear?  I clearly remember the stress and fear that I felt the first few months following Donald’s death.  The furnace died and I had to buy a new one—I was grateful that I had the money, but very concerned that I was going to run out of money. […]

31 Aug When Your Friend Dies

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  Last week I cleaned the basement and experienced so many surges of grief that I couldn’t believe it.  This week is better.  However, tomorrow is the birthday of my friend Ceclia Stewart-Androsky.   Cele as everyone called her and me were friends for almost 20 years.  We always said that we would grow old together […]