Extra Lonely Time Of Year
A holiday is a reminder of how much has changed. And a holiday is a painful reminder of who is missing. This can be a lonely time. Ideas to combat loneliness during the holiday season are helpful. During the holiday season it’s not unheard of to receive invitations to events because people feel sorry for us—or an invite that we usually receive never arrives.
Don’t take any of this personally. An invitation to a new event allows you to meet new people—and change is good. On the other hand, when an invite never arrives, we realize that the number one reason that people disappear is because they are uncomfortable with loss and grief. They don’t know what to do or what to say. Which is sad—but it’s something that we can’t control. However, all of this can leave us feeling very lonely. Free eBook Navigating The Holidays With A Plan
The Result
It’s easy for us to get stuck in an unproductive thinking feeling loop of unmet expectations, sadness, feeling lost, feeling annoyed and feeling very disappointed with family members and friends who not only are busy with their own responsibilities. But who may also be afraid to have to a conversation with us because they don’t know what to say. In times like these it’s necessary to make the choice to become your own number one supporter.
Switch Track Your Thinking
Get yourself out of the dumpers by getting up out of your chair and moving. By stepping out and connecting with others. By stepping out and serving others. Check out Common Myths About Grief
Ideas:
- Organize your household files, business files and your receipts. You will be happy that you did this because tax time is right around the corner.
- If one or more of your friends, ask you to join them at an event—give it a try. However, take your own car in case you are ready to go home before they are.
- Go to a movie. Invite a friend to join you.
- Find places around town to volunteer. For example, the local soup kitchen. Invite a friend to go with you.
- Clean your house and throw your own party and invite people that you like.
- Get a relaxation massage. Touch is healing.
- Attend a play at your local high school or theater. Invite a friend.
- Go to Barnes & Noble, buy yourself a snack, find a chair and read a book.
- If you are married and grieving the death of one or more children, it’s important to make the choice to stay connected with your spouse. Pray together. Start dating again. Talk, cry. Turn to each other—not away from each other. Decide to walk down the path of healing together. Don’t allow grief to move you in two different and disconnecting directions.
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