Loss: The Challenge
When The Rug Is Pulled Out from Under Our Feet
Loss is the internal mental and/or emotional and/or physical (bodily sensations, pain) experience that we find ourselves enmeshed in when we are physically separated from someone or something that we love. When the rug is pulled out from under our feet.
The Separation Timeline
Separation can be for a period of time. For example, a loved one away in the military or a loved one serving time in prison. Or when your child is attending college out of state. Or seperation can be permanent. For example, in the case of the death of a loved one. Or the result of the termination of your parental rights or that of your biological parents.
You Get the Idea
Heres’ what we need to be aware of. And this holds true for a young child, a teenager, a young adult, an adult, mature adults… No matter how young or old we are. It’s normal when a life event is a traumatic for us for the experience of loss to sweep in and to pull the rug out from under our feet. Leaving us sitting on our bum and wondering how we got there.
Challenging
- What we believe to be true about the world around us.
- What we believe we can and can’t control.
- The relationship that we have with ourselves.
- Our identity. Our sense of self—who we are.
- The relationship that we have with others.
- How we fit back into our ongoing life story.
- How we fit back into our ongoing family story.
- Our ability to learn, develop and mature as we navigate the normal related experience of shock and numbness—possibly even feelings of embarrassment or sadness…
There is a lot to acknowledge, sort out, process, make sense of… That said. This is all NORMAL for the experience of loss and the normal related experience of grief. Yep. The internal upheaval—the painful, confusing and conflicting thoughts and feelings and many times strange bodily sensations. Whatever internal upheaval that you are personally experiencing.
Blog: What Is Grief?
Take Charge
This is when we have to get up off of our bum. Shake the rug out and set it back in place. Get outside and move. If you have a dog, take your dog for a walk. Be understanding, kind and accepting of yourself. Learn as much as you can about the grieving and healing process. And keep putting one foot in front of the other as you navigate your personal process of grieving and your personal process of healing. The Power of Sharing Your Story of Loss
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