07 MarGive Yourself Permission To Grieve

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Give yourself permission to grieve.  Grief is the normal and predictable reaction to the death of a loved one.  But, it is also the normal and predictable reaction to all types of loss.  For example, loss of job, loss of health, loss of youth, loss of pet, empty nest… and even abortion.  Loss and the grief […]

28 FebHealing Action Step: Find Support!

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Let’s be honest.  Even when we are not dealing with grief we like to feel supported.  This is because when we receive the support that we need we feel understood, safe, comforted, valued and sometimes even taken care of.  Lack of support, on the other hand, can leave us feeling alone,  frustrated, disconnected and maybe […]

23 FebUnderstanding Change You Didn’t Ask For

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14 FebSunday Healing Forward Action Step

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  A few days after my husband Donald died my neighbor Chris showed up in my living room. She announced that we were going for a walk.  My first thought was absolutely not!  I was sitting on my couch wrapped in my afghan and I was planning on never going anywhere again.  I was miserable. […]

01 FebNormal Grief Responses

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Really?  I remember sitting in my grief support group and reading over the list of Normal Grief Responses for the first time.  I couldn’t believe what I was reading. For the three months since my husband Donald had died I had thought that I was losing my mind. When, in fact, I was experiencing normal […]

20 JanHealing Forward by Telling Your Story

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Healing Fact: Your brain and heart need to hear the words of your story, in your own voice, over and over again in order to believe and process not only what has happened to your loved one, but what has happened to you. Healing Action Step:  Tell your story to anyone who will listen.  And […]

06 JanNobody Can Tell You How To Grieve!

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  My husband Donald died in November 1999.  And, as some of you are well aware, by November in Michigan it’s cold. A few weeks after his funeral I heard a knock on my front door. When I opened the door I was happy to find a dear friend of ours who had come for […]

20 DecIdeas To Combat Loneliness

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  The holidays are a reminder that everything has changed.  It’s especially normal during these times to hope for or expect some support from family members and friends. On the flip side, however, it’s normal for friends and family members to be busy with their own  lives—which can leave the griever feeling lost and possibly […]

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11 DecGrief Pain: How Do I Make It Go Away?

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Grief Pain. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t tried to figure out how to make the pain go away.  However, what we all learn, sometimes the hard way, is that we can’t hide from the pain, run from pain, numb the pain with food, drugs or alcohol, shop the pain away, work continuously as a […]

19 NovGrieving Forward Holiday Plan

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  1.  You don’t need to accept every invitation. 2.  It’s okay not to decorate as much or not to decorate at all.  Unless you have children who expect and need things not to change much. 3.  You don’t have to do everything the same.  This is difficult to do when everything has changed. 4. […]