14 FebSunday Healing Forward Action Step

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  A few days after my husband Donald died my neighbor Chris showed up in my living room. She announced that we were going for a walk.  My first thought was absolutely not!  I was sitting on my couch wrapped in my afghan and I was planning on never going anywhere again.  I was miserable. […]

01 FebNormal Grief Responses

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Really?  I remember sitting in my grief support group and reading over the list of Normal Grief Responses for the first time.  I couldn’t believe what I was reading. For the three months since my husband Donald had died I had thought that I was losing my mind. When, in fact, I was experiencing normal […]

20 JanHealing Forward by Telling Your Story

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Healing Fact: Your brain and heart need to hear the words of your story, in your own voice, over and over again in order to believe and process not only what has happened to your loved one, but what has happened to you. Healing Action Step:  Tell your story to anyone who will listen.  And […]

06 JanNobody Can Tell You How To Grieve!

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  My husband Donald died in November 1999.  And, as some of you are well aware, by November in Michigan it’s cold. A few weeks after his funeral I heard a knock on my front door. When I opened the door I was happy to find a dear friend of ours who had come for […]

20 DecIdeas To Combat Loneliness

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  The holidays are a reminder that everything has changed.  It’s especially normal during these times to hope for or expect some support from family members and friends. On the flip side, however, it’s normal for friends and family members to be busy with their own  lives—which can leave the griever feeling lost and possibly […]

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11 DecGrief Pain: How Do I Make It Go Away?

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Grief Pain. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t tried to figure out how to make the pain go away.  However, what we all learn, sometimes the hard way, is that we can’t hide from the pain, run from pain, numb the pain with food, drugs or alcohol, shop the pain away, work continuously as a […]

19 NovGrieving Forward Holiday Plan

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  1.  You don’t need to accept every invitation. 2.  It’s okay not to decorate as much or not to decorate at all.  Unless you have children who expect and need things not to change much. 3.  You don’t have to do everything the same.  This is difficult to do when everything has changed. 4. […]

07 DecChristmas/Holiday Time & Grief Bursts

What is a grief burst?  A grief burst is when intense, painful, grief emotions unexpectedly (and that seemingly come out of nowhere)  surge though the mind and body and emotionally, and sometimes physically, derail you for a brief period of time.  Typically producing unstoppable tears—but not always.   And possibly triggering a burst of grief related […]

16 NovWhen the Holiday Season Includes the Anniversary of the Death

What makes this so difficult?  Every day we continue to learn who we are without our loved one.  This is especially painful during the holiday season.  Each holiday, special day and the anniversary of the death produce additional memories and grief responses which need to be acknowledged and processed—over and above what we are processing […]

11 NovNavigating the Holidays

  It’s that time of year.  And I know that many of you are already dreading the upcoming  holiday season and that you are experiencing tremendous  anxiety and stress related to the fact that it is difficult to navigate something that can never be the same again. Understanding of the following is key.  Even though […]