30 JanJust Get Over It? Where Is That Coming From?

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  Just Get Over It!  Where’s That Coming From? The culture we live in!  Somebody dies on a TV sitcom and everything is neatly wrapped up in under an hour.  The characters move on as if nothing happened.  Really? Even in reality TV (which is actually scripted) emotions explode or emotions are denied with no […]

23 JanNow What? Death Day! Also Known As The Anniversary Of The Death

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  Now What?  Death Day! Also Known As The Anniversary Of The Death…  I referred to this day as “Death Day” the first few years after my husband Donald died.  Every year I take inventory—and every year I can’t believe that another year has gone by—and every year the days leading up to this day […]

16 JanFeeling More Relief Than Grief?

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  Feeling more relief than grief?  Feeling more relief than grief is something that typically doesn’t get talked about much.  However, we need to talk about this because this too is normal for grieving and healing for some people.  Typically, this type of response occurs, with some level of emotional intensity, after witnessing your loved […]

10 JanR.I.P. My Dear Friend!!

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R.I.P My Dear Friend!! On New Year’s Eve my friend and neighbor Cathy lost her battle with cancer and went home to Heaven.  I have to admit I have been asking God why a lot this week.  Her husband Eric and their young adult boys still need her… and me too.  Eric and my son […]

29 NovYes, Holiday Time & Loneliness Sucks!

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Yes, Holiday Time & Loneliness Sucks!  After the death of a loved one, for many of us, the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is the most painfully lonely and in-between time ever. I remember my children returning to school after Thanksgiving holiday, the house being painfully quiet… and thinking, “Great, in a few weeks we […]

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31 OctThinking This Sucks The Holidays Are Coming?

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Thinking This Sucks The Holidays Are Coming?  You are not alone!  We each grieve differently and on our own personal healing timetable.  Which means that not everyone feels like this sucks the holidays are coming—but a lot of people do! (I have been known, over the years, as one of the, difficult easy to get […]

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17 OctTurkey, Warm Weather & The State Police

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  Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police.  What a welcome change!  Instead of the normal cold and rainy and sometimes snowy Michigan weather that we tend to experience on Thanksgiving Day—the weather on this particular Thanksgiving Day (1998) was sunny and warm and beautiful.  I know that I am not the only holiday host, […]

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27 SepWhy Does Grief Feel So Much Like Fear?

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Why Does Grief Feel So Much Like Fear?  I clearly remember the stress and fear that I felt the first few months following Donald’s death.  The furnace died and I had to buy a new one—I was grateful that I had the money, but very concerned that I was going to run out of money. […]

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20 SepShe Said What?

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She Said What? Before I share She Said What? I have to tell you about what happened at The Wooden Spoon in downtown Brighton a few weeks ago.  While we were eating lunch I looked up and there was Melissa Gilbert and her husband Timothy Busfield and an unknown person.  And they seated them right […]

04 SepHow Can I Support My Friend Who Is Grieving?

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  How can I support my friend who is grieving? Let’s start with what isn’t helpful.  At Donald’s funeral a friend whispered in my ear, “Why couldn’t it have been my husband who died?” What?  A week after the funeral I was sorting out Donald’s stuff in my garage and my (Married) neighbor showed up […]

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