17 Oct The Most Valuable List

The Most Valuable List

What is it?  Normal Grief Responses. Everyone who has ever experienced a loss of any kind needs this list.  Death, divorce, job loss, empty nest…What a relief to know that what you are experiencing is normal for grief.  You are not alone! Check it out and share it with your friends.

 

 

 

 

 

Physical Reactions

Deep sighing

Weakness and fatigue

Rapid heartbeat

Increased blood pressure

Increase in activity

Decrease in activity

Muscular tension

Sleep disturbances

Decreased resistance to illness

Weight and appetite change

Neglect of self

Increase in self care

Increased sensory awareness

Emotional Reactions 

Numbness

Confusion

Euphoria

Sadness

Guilt

Despair

Hopelessness

Helplessness

Feeling of being lost

Anger

Bitterness—vengefulness

Peacefulness

Spiritual connectedness

Behavioral/Social Reactions

Searching for what was lost

Detached from surroundings

Disoriented to time and place

Withdrawn from friends and activities

Unable to concentrate

Forgetful

Blameful of others

Apathetic regarding activities or future

Preoccupied

Crying

Seeking solitude

Finishing “unfinished business

Behavioral/Social Reactions Continued…

Seeking and providing forgiveness

Spontaneity

Cognitive/Intellectual Reactions 

Impaired self esteem

Impaired ability to concentrate

Disbelief/denying or avoiding the reality of the loss.

Repeated review/rumination of loss event

Increase/decrease of dreams

Hyperactivity

Suicidal thoughts

Search to understand implications of loss

Practical needs/problem solving

Creativity

Wisdom

Spiritual Reactions

Emptiness/reason to live challenged

Destruction of ideals/beliefs

Search for meaning/connectedness

Pessimism or idealism

Acceptance

Forgiveness

Experiences of connectedness, wholeness, rebirth.

Compassion

It’s good to know what’s normal.  You may have a few entries of your own to add to this list.