29 Nov Yes, Holiday Time & Loneliness Sucks!

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Yes, Holiday Time & Loneliness Sucks!  After the death of a loved one, for many of us, the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is the most painfully lonely and in-between time ever. I remember my children returning to school after Thanksgiving holiday, the house being painfully quiet… and thinking, “Great, in a few weeks we […]

17 Oct Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police

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  Turkey, Warm Weather & The State Police.  What a welcome change!  Instead of the normal cold and rainy and sometimes snowy Michigan weather that we tend to experience on Thanksgiving Day—the weather on this particular Thanksgiving Day (1998) was sunny and warm and beautiful.  I know that I am not the only holiday host, […]

27 Sep Why Does Grief Feel So Much Like Fear?

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Why Does Grief Feel So Much Like Fear?  I clearly remember the stress and fear that I felt the first few months following Donald’s death.  The furnace died and I had to buy a new one—I was grateful that I had the money, but very concerned that I was going to run out of money. […]

04 Sep How Can I Support My Friend Who Is Grieving?

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  How can I support my friend who is grieving? Let’s start with what isn’t helpful.  At Donald’s funeral a friend whispered in my ear, “Why couldn’t it have been my husband who died?” What?  A week after the funeral I was sorting out Donald’s stuff in my garage and my (Married) neighbor showed up […]

31 Aug When Your Friend Dies

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  Last week I cleaned the basement and experienced so many surges of grief that I couldn’t believe it.  This week is better.  However, tomorrow is the birthday of my friend Ceclia Stewart-Androsky.   Cele as everyone called her and me were friends for almost 20 years.  We always said that we would grow old together […]