06 Feb Anger? Could I be Angry And Not Know It?

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Anger? Could I Be Angry And Not Know It?   Anger is normal for grief.  However, everyone does not experience anger after a death.  Are you?  Could you be angry and not realize it? Take a minute and honestly gage your rage.  Are you stuffing your anger deep inside and running the risk of making yourself sick?  Are you lashing out at others? Are you working through it in a healthy way?  Are people avoiding you?

Find yourself in the list below:

  • Do I find myself getting upset over things that seem minor and I wonder why I am so upset?
  • Do I take my anger out on the people that I really care about and who care about me?
  • Am I feeling extra sensitive, irritable and frustrated?
  • Do I find myself getting angry while driving?
  • Do I find myself getting agitated when dealing with people who are just doing their job?

Anger impacts in degrees.  It can manifest on a scale anywhere from minor irritation and frustration to intense rage.  A lot of times we are angry and we don’t realize that we are taking our anger out on family members, friends, co-workers or the cashier at the grocery store…  Don’t get me wrong, there is a lot to be angry about after the death of a loved one.  If you are angry, working through your anger is part of doing your personal Grief Work.  Which means you have to find ways to release your anger that are healthy and positive.  For example, journaling, running, walking, kneading bread… Test yourself.  Pay attention to how you are dealing with people today—what you are thinking, feeling and saying…

Healing Forward Action Step: Gage Your Rage and then figure out healthy ways to release it.

We share more information about normal grief anger and how to resolve it in our book, Grieving Forward: Death Happened, Now What?  If you already have the book and now realize that you are in fact still angry, read all the chapters on anger again.  Working through anger is a process too. Hugs